Gemini’s sentiment at least 20x a day…..

zodiaccity:

aboybandurl:

borisairei:

alexanderperchov:

reminder that this is the actual greatest youtube video of all time

the preview image is the girls about to kiss and it doesn’t display the title until you click play so i really didn’t know what to expect

BUT THE COMMENTS ON THE VIDEO OMG

(via swingsetindecember)

→ Is Forced Fatherhood Fair?

damnzombiesgetoffmylawn:

shewhostepsincake:

In cases of accidental pregnancy, men now arguably have less reproductive autonomy than women.

 As a person who worked in child support for 2 years I agree but at the same time disagree with this article. The whole “asking permission” thing is no where near based in reality. People don’t just go “if this results in a child, would you be willing to be a parent” each time before sex. Just the idea sounds ridiculous. This issue shouldn’t be about who is demonized more and who is getting more reproductive rights than the other, this is BOTH the man and the womans responsibility. If the woman isn’t on a contraceptives, then the man should have a condom, or visa versa. If no one has any kind of protection then either they should be prepared for the consequences, or (smart idea here) they shouldn’t be doing it at all. Men and woman (as long as people in congress don’t go crazy) have the same rights to protect themselves because both have access to contraceptives, and if you live in a state or city where access to protection is being limited then you should fight for it. The feminist movement in the 60’s and 70’s wasn’t just to give women more rights, it was to make men and women have EQUAL right about their bodies. The way you protect that right is to protect yourself. This article is trying to say that men are no longer having any say, when that is not true at all.

I agree that men should have rights to their being named “father”. If the woman does not want to have an abortion or leave her child to be adopted, then I think it is fair that the man have the choice of being a supporter for the child. 

Ultimately there are bad women and men out there. Women who use pregnancy to “catch” a man, and yes, I have actually seen this go down. And men who could give less of a fuck if a girl he slept with gets pregnant. In the end it is incredibly difficult to draw the line, but I do believe that men deserve the option of being financially tied to a pregnancy in the case of not being married to the mother of his child. 

i don’t agree with you but there’s a reason why i don’t mostly because child support is really gathered in two ways. If the parent is on services with DHS. (TANF/ or Medicad. Not foodstamps) then child support is collected to go to them but to also repay the state for those benefits so it’s linked pretty closely to the welfare system. It basically goes to that saying that “nothing is free” so child support is pursued to balance that out. That is the case i’d say about 60% of the time. The other 40% are those wanting to enforce a divorce order or a non-parent (grandmother, aunt, etc) wanting the parents to help support their child. While the idea of not having parents to help support the child seems doable  it gets REAL tricky REAL fast. Both parents, if they are in agreement, can do an unobligated order which basically established paternity but does not order child support, but that rarely happens. And after LITERALLY seeing both moms and dad with 10’s of thousands of dollars in back child support because they haven’t paid a cent since the child was born tell me they will not pay and hang up in my face, you don’t feel bad when a warrant goes out for their arrest because they are showing how little they care. i agree that if women have a choice, men should have a choice, but that choice is through making smart choices and using protection. Knowing that sex isn’t just for fun but that it can lead to children. You are doing an adult act so you should be prepared for the possibility of adult consequences. That is where both mothers and fathers have choices, and if/when something goes wrong both need to take responsibility for those choices, and child support is one of the forms of that responsibility. You select your partners carefully. You talk it out. If they are not using protection and refuse to and won’t let you, you need to leave the situation. As my BF told me one time “No pussy aint worth knocking a girl up by accident” (I died laughing the way he said it lol)  and I agree lol Think with your head, not with your ho ho and be smart. My BF and i have talked a LOT because his dad abandoned him. He knows how much it hurts and he wants to be good and ready to have children. We’ve had many talks about what we’d do if something happens. Sex is fun, so that’s why people want it and don’t think about the consequences, and that’s the sad part about it. It’s too big of a deal to do that and there’s a lot of things i wish were better like sex ed and access to contraception to make that happen less.